On the advice of a friend who is stronger than me and has better form than I do, I picked up Starting Strength, 2nd Edition, by Mark Rippetoe & Lon Kilgore.
She then sent me a link to some of Rip’s nuggets of wisdom, and the very first item, and one about halfway down the page, pretty much confirm that he and I are on the same wavelength here.
Rip: “You would look better if you gained about 10 lbs of muscle.”
The woman he was speaking to responds with look of utter horror.
Rip: “Trust me, I’ve been looking at women a long time, and I’m really good at it.”